How a man overcame stuttering after hypnotized into being a sexual animal

Julius CeaserConfidence in a man is extremely attractive to any woman. It’s not so much about being Bratt Pitt or Ryan Gosling, it’s more about being Julius Caesar or General Patton. Power, leadership, confidence are the key ingredients to winning a woman’s heart. Thank the biology’s selfish gene for that, because its no secret: women are attracted to power, men are attracted to beauty.

In this part of my blog I will be documenting some of my most interesting hypnosis sessions. All names are changed and situations slightly modified to protect my client’s confidentiality.

Igor came to me with the stuttering problem. He had a minor speech impediment, where certain words are challenging to pronounce. After many years of struggle, he found a way to manage this problem by scanning for feared words to either shift the conversation or substitute difficult words with synonyms. All stutterers do this to some extent but some become so adroit at it that they appear to stop stuttering altogether. They are often labeled as “closet stutterers.” However, no one knows how much stress they have to endure: hunting, substituting, avoiding, maintaining a constant vigilance, overall feeling exhausted by the end of the day. Igor was a closet stutterer.

During the pre-talk, Igor shared with me that a few years ago he went to South America and met Drake, a dating coach, who performed a brief ten minute hypnosis induction with him to help him build confidence meeting women. Drake hypnotized Igor to imagine that he was a powerful man, owning a whole harem of beautiful women; they all desired him, seduced him and he was some sort of sexual animal, impossible to resist. When Igor came out of hypnosis he felt more confident and empowered. To his own surprise his stutter was also gone.

The sexual power and owning a harem of women represented male power for Igor, being some sort of a king, who was able to provide to all of his wives, inseminate them and breed more of his children, that is to spread his genes.

Igor told me that unfortunately the confident feeling lasted only for a few weeks after that brief session and consequently his stutter returned. However, he believed in the power of hypnosis and asked me to hypnotize him again so he could re-experience this exuberant confidence and lose the stutter permanently.

I didn’t want to do the same thing Drake did for Igor, by guiding him into imagining sex orgies in order to overcome his stutter. It wasn’t my style and I am not a dating coach, even though I saw a powerful value in this metaphor for Igor. At the same time, I didn’t want to offer something traditional, conservative and discount the work of Drake. So, I decided that this time, Drake and I “could work” in tandem for Igor: me in the therapy room and Drake in Igor’s imagination.

I used an induction and put Igor into the state of trance, then I guided him back to the experience he had with Drake in 2010. I instructed Igor to imagine Drake and hear his every suggestion one more time, so he could re-experience the same state of extreme confidence and male power, no mater where he was and what he was doing in his imagination.

After Igor achieved the powerful state again, I added a few more metaphors. I guided Igor to imagine and choose people whose confidence, power and vision he admired. Among them were Winston Churchill, Julius Caesar and Thomas Jefferson. Igor imagined himself being these men one at a time. When Igor achieved a magnified state of power mentally, physically and emotionally, I asked him to create a trigger: a deep breath in and out along with his personal code word which he would associate with this desired mental state. This technique is called Anchoring. Anchoring refers to the process of associating an internal state with some external or internal trigger so that the response may be quickly, and sometimes covertly, reassessed at will and at any time.

After Igor’s anchor was locked, I gave him some more suggestions, that from then on it would be easy for him to access this state of confidence and power with his personal anchor at any time and at any place.

Igor was delighted. This time he was convinced that his confidence state is like a software in the mind – always there, available to him permanently. His stutter was also gone. He spoke slowly, smoothly and was very relaxed. The internal state of confidence made him not care about what people thought or said about his minor speech impedement or a random stutter. It simply no longer mattered.

NYC hypnotist Elena Beloff for hypnosis sessions, call 646 450 8167, info@insidehypnosis.com

NYC Hypnotist teaches self-hypnosis and how to design affirmations

Woman meditating at BeachYou can easily use self-hypnosis to help you overcome specific problems, bad habits, fears or limited beliefs that hold you back in life.

You will need two elements for self-hypnosis: a state of receptivity like focus attention or light trance and your specific affirmation. James Braid, who coined a word hypnosis in 1849, would call this process mono-ideaism. A process of focusing on one single idea, making it part of your unconscious belief system. Once this idea is accepted by the mind, it will begin to affect your behavior and actions in a new and positive way.

Clinical hypnotists use hypnotic inductions to help their clients achieve a state of receptivity. You can also establish such state on your own. Meditation, breathing techniques, chanting, listening to calming music or sitting in nature – are all great ways to enter a state of deep relaxation.

Before you enter that state, you have to know your affirmation. How do you design such perfect simple affirmation? If you are trying to eliminate a bad habit, then simply use a suggestion like ” I am now a non-smoker. Smoking doesn’t fit me anymore”, “I let my nails heal, Nail biting doesn’t fit me anymore”, “Drinking is a thing of the past. I choose not to drink.” As you see from these examples, each affirmation consists of two short sentences, making it more sound and powerful. Make sure your affirmations are stated in present tense and have a positive meaning.

If you are trying to overcome a problem, like stage fright, anxiety, fear of something specific or release a limiting pattern, then ask yourself what you want  and why you don’t have it. Whatever negative belief you receive to your second question, simply reframe it into a new positive belief statement and work with it.

For example, if you want to have a better job or work opportunity enter your life, ask yourself why you don’t have it now. You may receive an answer like: “I am not good enough”, “I am not that smart”, “I am not lucky” or “I am not ready”, or that “It is hard to get a good job”, “I don’t deserve it” and so on. Look at these beliefs and start reframing them into positive belief statements. Read them out loud a few times. It will begin to shift your perception and the way you think. Then try to come up with one good and strong belief statement that encompasses the meaning of all of these new positive beliefs. For example, the counter belief statement to the above example of negative beliefs could be something like this:  “I create new opportunities, I easily find a new job, I am always good and deserving.”

After you have designed your positive affirmation, use any technique you know to help you relax deeply into a state of meditation. Many of you already know how to meditate or at least you can attend a meditation class and learn how to relax mentally.

When you meditate, take your time, don’t rush, allow yourself to enjoy the state of thoughtlessness for a while. Then slowly begin repeating your affirmation silently with your inner voice for about 10-20 minutes, maybe raising the volume of your voice if appropriate. Let it slowly sink into your unconscious.

For more questions on self-hypnosis or to set up a hypnosis session contact NYC Hypnotist Elena Beloff. Hypnosis downloads for self-hypnosis are also available for purchase.

 

NYC Hypnotist advice on self-hypnosis

Hypnosis is natural state of focused attention and mental concentration where your thoughts are being put on hold. You no longer doubt, criticize or think about tomorrow or your next appointment and what you would say to your boyfriend. You are still, calm and open to incoming suggestion.

In this part of my blog under category ” Hypnosis and my 2013 Yoga Passbook.” I shall document my experience with NYC yoga/dance classes. Fortunately, I received this wonderful gift, which allows me 2 or 3 complimentary visits at the best NYC Yoga/Pilates/Dance studios. These wonderful practices have a lot in common with hypnotism and I am sure there are many new things I will be learning, which I will gladly share with you.

Aug 1st/2013 (day1) -My first day of yoga was at Exhlale on Central Park West called Exhale Chill. Having taking many yoga classes before, I have to say this one was one of the most  unusual. It was a super slow yoga, where you go over 6-8 postures and just relax on each one of them  for about 5-8 minutes.  My yoga teacher Marcy Tropin was very attentive and personable.  She was connecting with everyone either through her advising touch or something she would say in the beginning of the class or at the end to each student.

If you want to combine yoga and self-hypnosis, this is perfect yoga for you. While resting in comfortable poses, covered with a blanket with your back on the comfortable bolster, lulled into a sooting state of light trance by the beatiful Gregorian chants on the background – you can use your personal mantra or affirmation, simply by repeating it over and over within yourself silently. Learn how design your personal affirmations for self-hypnosis here.

Here is a sample of the Gregorian chant which I enjoyed profoundly at my Yoga experience at Exhale:

For hypnosis sessions with NYC Hypnotist Elena Beloff call 646 450 8167. Unique Hypnosis Downloads  narrated by Elena are available for purchase.

 

How to Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety

Happy coupleSexual performance anxiety can be overcome with hypnosis therapy. In a matter of one hypnosis session, you can be tuning your thoughts in a positive direction and looking forward to the most pleasurable activity in your life – sex!

At the base of all performance anxiety problems, be it stage fright, fear of public speaking or sexual performance anxiety – there lies a pattern of constant overplaying of a negative inner dialogue. A negative expectation of a failure and a nagging overplaying of the thoughts such as “ I will look bad”, “What will she or he think of me” “ I will feel ashamed”, “I won’t get an erection”, “ I hate myself”, “He thinks I am lame” and etc – all these thoughts can be devastating and affecting one’s ability to perform a natural human function, such as having sex. Some of my clients with this problem have reported, that they even began to dread sex and avoid it, as if it was some chore.

We form beliefs throughout or lives. Whatever we expose ourselves to: various situations, people, events – they all have a powerful effect on how we build our models of the world. Our models of the world define our lives. Because what you believe in – becomes your life.

Negative beliefs usually form after a person is being exposed to negative life situations or circumstances ( willfully or not). Also, negative beliefs often form at the time when certain specific failure or traumatic event take place or someone makes a critical comment about you or your activity.

Many of my clients with sexual performance anxiety report a specific, often embarrassing failure incident that happened in the past, after which they tend to fixate on the idea that such failure might happen again.

It is important to know that everything your unconscious mind does, has a positive intention. If your mind knows you failed in the past, it will do all possible to help you avoid this unpleasant situation again. So how does it try to help you? Simply by reminding you about it, fearing it would happen again and trying not to let that happen. Except the mind doesn’t often understand that by “reminding you about this event”  doesn’t help you at all. It actually does the opposite – you begin to ruminate over the negative, and your expectations tend to materialize again. Because what we think becomes our actions, behaviors and physical expressions.

When I work with my clients with sexual performance anxiety, I use hypnosis to help them break connections with the past. In deep trance I convince their unconscious mind that what happened in the past is done and finished and has no effect on their current thought processes anymore.  On the deep level of the mind they begin to understand that the only way to enjoy sex and receive pleasure is to truly immerse yourself in the experience, let go of the past, and be fully in the moment. I give my clients positive suggestions about their sexual performance, and expectation of success at all times. After the session they feel renewed, recharged, ready to rock the world with their God given talents!

Testimonial from a recent client:

“I am doing very well. My last encounter was perfect, no issues what so-ever. The sessions seem to be working, no hang-ups, getting lost in the moment, having fun. I’m much more confident, a lot less comparing, being happy with myself.” L.T.

SCHEDULE A SESSION  with NYC Clinical Hypnotist Elena Beloff to overcome a sexual performance anxiety . CALL 646 450 8167. New York Hypnotherapy with Elena Beloff is your Solution to Problem.

Check our self-hypnosis audio course for Male Performance Anxiety  in our online store.

You will receive this course as a complimentary, if you come for your hypnosis session with Elena Beloff.

Post-Hypnotic Suggestion to Overcome Anxiety

lavender flower

New York Hypnotherapy and Lavender Oil Anchor

I once worked with a woman who came to me to overcome the anxiety she associated with seeing her daughter-in-law. She experienced an over-all negative state, which hindered her from expressing herself and simply having a good time with family when they gathered for dinners. I asked what she wanted to feel instead. She said that she didn’t want to feel a sudden liking of this woman or any friendship yet. She simply wanted to feel at ease. She wanted to be comfortable enough to interact normally with her family without constantly experiencing an unpleasant anxiety when she looked at or tried to speak with her daughter-in-law.

I asked her to recall a memory from the past when she felt total bliss and happiness. She said it was with her kids when they were small and they were all lying in bed together. At that moment her life felt worth living.

I explained to her how creating a specific anchor and associating it with this positive memory could help her deal with her anxiety. She could use a trigger associated with this memory and use it every time she was near her daughter-in-law. Over time this would naturally replace her state of anxiousness.  I also suggested some examples of different anchors she could use. She chose an olfactory anchor of lavender oil.

I hypnotized her into trance state and guided her back in time to her memory of when she was with her kids in bed, full of happiness and joy. She gently smelled lavender oil with her eyes closed, as I brought it near her nose. We did this a few times, so that the lavender oil anchor could be naturally and efficiently associated with the state of ease, comfort and peace.

A few days later she told me that she had dinner with her family and her daughter-in-law. She put a little bit of lavender oil on her wrist. Whenever she needed to experience the state of calm and ease, she simply smelled her wrist and felt very positive. She was able to interact and communicate and make choices from a very powerful and positive place of peace and love. This became a powerful post-hypnotic suggestion with a little aid of lavender oil anchor.

SCHEDULE a HYPNOSIS SESSION with NYC Hypnotherapist Elena Beloff. CALL 646 450 8167. Overcome performance anxiety, stage fright and fears of public speaking using hypnosis and NLP anchoring techniques. 

Crisis Management and Hypnosis

Every nation, every society, every human – every form of life at once ( at least) is met with crisis. How you respond to it and what choices you make in the aftermath – is what determines your success.

What is crisis? “Crisis is any event that is, or expected to lead to, an unstable and dangerous situation affecting an individual, group, community or whole society. Crises are deemed to be negative changes in the security, economic, political, societal or environmental affairs, especially when they occur abruptly, with little or no warning.” ( Wikipedia)

In personal crisis, it is common to witness certain external systems, like business partnerships, marriage, relationships, work place  and etc– crashing; and certain personal beliefs about relationships, road to success, survival, parenting, and simply how the world works or should work – also crashing as they no longer provide the desired result. When crisis comes, it shakes up your external modules and mental model of the world.

During such difficult times people tend to fall into depression and despair, everything they believed in and found stable or secure has come to a halt.  Questions arise that can’t be answered right away. It is also common for people to start making fast decisions, which are usually based on fear, insecurity and desperation. Any decision made from such negative place results in a prolonged crisis or simply another dreadful circumstance.

Instead, it is wise to take advantage of the crisis and begin to examine your life and your personal model of the world. It’s ok to doubt this model. It’s OK to crash it. In fact, it has already begun to crash, on its own, hence the crisis.

When crisis comes, literally, PAUSE. Put your panic, your fears and instability on hold.

When I work with clients who deal with critical situations life, I guide them to meditate deeply and help them draw upon their inner recourses to attain internal piece and alignment despite the dreadful circumstances. From that place of strength and power you can begin to make better and bolder decisions, which will help you rise out of ashes of crisis.

You will be surprised how the new opportunity maybe knocking at the back door. The solution to problem maybe lingering in the distant corner of your beautiful mind.

SCHEDULE A HYPNOSIS SESSION  for success motivation, stress reduction, crisis management with NYC Hypnotist  Elena Beloff in her Midtown Manhattan office. Call  646.450.8167 for a free consultation.

New York Hypnotherapy with Elena Beloff is your Solution to Problem. Skype hypnosis sessions are also available.