How one woman overcame her fears of sex with hypnosis

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People are often intrigued by hypnosis and how it works in clinical setting. In this part of my blog I will be describing hypnosis sessions with my clients. All names will be changed and situations slightly modified for the purposes of clients’ confidentiality.

A hypnosis session is typically divided into two parts, a 45-minute pre-talk and a 45-minute hypnosis session. During the pre talk my job as a clinical hypnotist is to help my clients identify their desired outcomes and their limiting beliefs, which stand in way of attaining these outcomes. I like to call these limiting beliefs thought viruses, because they slow down a normal healthy functioning of the mental and physical capacities.

Janet came to me with a rare fear, she is petrified of sex. She described that while she wants to be able to enjoy sex, she feels disgusted by it. Every time she is about to have sex she gets overwhelmed with feelings of resentment, shame and anger. As I interviewed her and did a brief regression, we identified that her beliefs about sex were formed at a young age. She was growing up with a mother who had a drinking problem, was careless, promiscuous and often brought random men in the house. Little Janet continuously witnessed this behavior, as she heard inapproroate sexual sounds, saw messy rooms and her distraught mother when the men were gone. Jane started to develop anger towards her mother and her sexual promiscuity, overall thinking of sex as a bad thing. Her immediate interpretation of sex was, it’s dirty, it causes bad feelings.

During the regression I have also used a metaphor by having Janet pretend she was her mother for a moment. When she associated with her, she spoke in her mother’s voice and tone, and was able to answer my questions as her mother would. Ultimately, Janet was able to forgive her mother, as she understood her mother was in lot  of pain, lost, lonely and never meant to hurt her daughter with her behavior.

After this exercise I induced a deeper state of physical and mental relaxation and gave Janet positive suggestions to help her rewire her beliefs about sex. This is my favorite part, because beliefs identify our actions and behaviors. We form beliefs during the course of our lives, from people, places and situations, into which we are exposed to. Whatever they are, positive or negative, they shape your lives.

Here is a brief version of Janet’s personal script with positive suggestions: “ From this time onward your feelings about sex have changed. You are free to enjoy sex, because you have let go of the past. You understand that your mother’s behavior has no effect on how you think about sex today. You understand your mother didn’t mean to hurt you, she had a lot to deal with and was in lot of pain herself. You completely forgive her. All connections with the past have been broken. From now on your thoughts about sex are always loving and positive. Sex is always enjoyable to you. You are always in the moment when you have sex and connected with your partner 100 percent. You are free to enjoy it, free to be yourself, free to immerse yourself in this most pleasureble human activity, glide with it, enjoy every second, every movement, every sound, every breath you take.”

To put it simply, I help my clients rewrite their personal stories with the uniquely designed personal suggestions. This allows them to look on their past situations from a much bigger, loving and wiser point-of-view, detached from blaming, guilt or resentment and so on.

Hypnosis is a process of transmitting ideas via a state of receptivity. It is a natural process, that can take place through repetition of an idea, conditioning techniques, visualization of the outcomes and etc. All you need is the right type of positive suggestions and a state of focused attention, induced by a clinical hypnotist, or yourself if you practice self-hypnosis.

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NYC Hypnotist teaches self-hypnosis and how to design affirmations

Woman meditating at BeachYou can easily use self-hypnosis to help you overcome specific problems, bad habits, fears or limited beliefs that hold you back in life.

You will need two elements for self-hypnosis: a state of receptivity like focus attention or light trance and your specific affirmation. James Braid, who coined a word hypnosis in 1849, would call this process mono-ideaism. A process of focusing on one single idea, making it part of your unconscious belief system. Once this idea is accepted by the mind, it will begin to affect your behavior and actions in a new and positive way.

Clinical hypnotists use hypnotic inductions to help their clients achieve a state of receptivity. You can also establish such state on your own. Meditation, breathing techniques, chanting, listening to calming music or sitting in nature – are all great ways to enter a state of deep relaxation.

Before you enter that state, you have to know your affirmation. How do you design such perfect simple affirmation? If you are trying to eliminate a bad habit, then simply use a suggestion like ” I am now a non-smoker. Smoking doesn’t fit me anymore”, “I let my nails heal, Nail biting doesn’t fit me anymore”, “Drinking is a thing of the past. I choose not to drink.” As you see from these examples, each affirmation consists of two short sentences, making it more sound and powerful. Make sure your affirmations are stated in present tense and have a positive meaning.

If you are trying to overcome a problem, like stage fright, anxiety, fear of something specific or release a limiting pattern, then ask yourself what you want  and why you don’t have it. Whatever negative belief you receive to your second question, simply reframe it into a new positive belief statement and work with it.

For example, if you want to have a better job or work opportunity enter your life, ask yourself why you don’t have it now. You may receive an answer like: “I am not good enough”, “I am not that smart”, “I am not lucky” or “I am not ready”, or that “It is hard to get a good job”, “I don’t deserve it” and so on. Look at these beliefs and start reframing them into positive belief statements. Read them out loud a few times. It will begin to shift your perception and the way you think. Then try to come up with one good and strong belief statement that encompasses the meaning of all of these new positive beliefs. For example, the counter belief statement to the above example of negative beliefs could be something like this:  “I create new opportunities, I easily find a new job, I am always good and deserving.”

After you have designed your positive affirmation, use any technique you know to help you relax deeply into a state of meditation. Many of you already know how to meditate or at least you can attend a meditation class and learn how to relax mentally.

When you meditate, take your time, don’t rush, allow yourself to enjoy the state of thoughtlessness for a while. Then slowly begin repeating your affirmation silently with your inner voice for about 10-20 minutes, maybe raising the volume of your voice if appropriate. Let it slowly sink into your unconscious.

For more questions on self-hypnosis or to set up a hypnosis session contact NYC Hypnotist Elena Beloff. Hypnosis downloads for self-hypnosis are also available for purchase.

 

How to Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety

Happy coupleSexual performance anxiety can be overcome with hypnosis therapy. In a matter of one hypnosis session, you can be tuning your thoughts in a positive direction and looking forward to the most pleasurable activity in your life – sex!

At the base of all performance anxiety problems, be it stage fright, fear of public speaking or sexual performance anxiety – there lies a pattern of constant overplaying of a negative inner dialogue. A negative expectation of a failure and a nagging overplaying of the thoughts such as “ I will look bad”, “What will she or he think of me” “ I will feel ashamed”, “I won’t get an erection”, “ I hate myself”, “He thinks I am lame” and etc – all these thoughts can be devastating and affecting one’s ability to perform a natural human function, such as having sex. Some of my clients with this problem have reported, that they even began to dread sex and avoid it, as if it was some chore.

We form beliefs throughout or lives. Whatever we expose ourselves to: various situations, people, events – they all have a powerful effect on how we build our models of the world. Our models of the world define our lives. Because what you believe in – becomes your life.

Negative beliefs usually form after a person is being exposed to negative life situations or circumstances ( willfully or not). Also, negative beliefs often form at the time when certain specific failure or traumatic event take place or someone makes a critical comment about you or your activity.

Many of my clients with sexual performance anxiety report a specific, often embarrassing failure incident that happened in the past, after which they tend to fixate on the idea that such failure might happen again.

It is important to know that everything your unconscious mind does, has a positive intention. If your mind knows you failed in the past, it will do all possible to help you avoid this unpleasant situation again. So how does it try to help you? Simply by reminding you about it, fearing it would happen again and trying not to let that happen. Except the mind doesn’t often understand that by “reminding you about this event”  doesn’t help you at all. It actually does the opposite – you begin to ruminate over the negative, and your expectations tend to materialize again. Because what we think becomes our actions, behaviors and physical expressions.

When I work with my clients with sexual performance anxiety, I use hypnosis to help them break connections with the past. In deep trance I convince their unconscious mind that what happened in the past is done and finished and has no effect on their current thought processes anymore.  On the deep level of the mind they begin to understand that the only way to enjoy sex and receive pleasure is to truly immerse yourself in the experience, let go of the past, and be fully in the moment. I give my clients positive suggestions about their sexual performance, and expectation of success at all times. After the session they feel renewed, recharged, ready to rock the world with their God given talents!

Testimonial from a recent client:

“I am doing very well. My last encounter was perfect, no issues what so-ever. The sessions seem to be working, no hang-ups, getting lost in the moment, having fun. I’m much more confident, a lot less comparing, being happy with myself.” L.T.

SCHEDULE A SESSION  with NYC Clinical Hypnotist Elena Beloff to overcome a sexual performance anxiety . CALL 646 450 8167. New York Hypnotherapy with Elena Beloff is your Solution to Problem.

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Hypnosis for Stress Management

Overcoming Stress Beating Anxiety Jumping Over WordStress is simply a reaction to a stimulus that disturbs your mental and physical equilibrium. A stressful event can trigger a rising of hormones such as adrenaline or cortisol, caused by the natural fight-or-flight response. A minor stress can keep you on your toes or even make you more productive and focused. However, a prolonged chronic stress can cause detrimental effects on your health, both mind and body.

If you live in a big city, such as New York, then you probably know how stressful life can be, working long hours, travelling long distances, dealing with stressful situations at work or home. The more involved you are in your busy life, the more stressors will continue to surmount all around.

What makes a huge difference is your reaction to your environment and stress.

Every person’s life situation and story is unique. Stressors and reactions to them vary from person to person. Your stress may be coming from work and your boss, it can be from the certain family members, it can be your employees or a project that you have to finish.

The best way to solve unpleasant feelings and stress caused by your environment is to regain your personal balance and inner peace. You can achieve that through regular meditation practice or self-hypnosis. When you feel calm, relaxed, collected and grounded – you can deal with almost any stress and negativity.

Regular Meditation practice or self-hypnosis are powerful tools to help you keep your mental balance. When you meditate regularly, your body naturally releases endorphins, chemicals responsible for a happy mood.

There are four known brain waves cycles, which measure the ionic flow within the neurons in the brain.These brain wave cycles are are Beta, Alpha, Theta, Delta. Alpha and Theta are the brain waves cycles that happen during meditation and deep relaxation. Mental states with alpha or theta brain wave activity are generally very positive states of mind. You feel calm and relaxed. It becomes easier to think, access memories, find solutions to problems and make better wiser decisions. You become more resourceful and begin to see a better and bigger picture of your life situations. During such states your mind is no longer cluttered with negative thoughts, you are detached from doubts, judgments or any fear-based emotions.

Regular exercise is a wonderful way to keep a physical balance and health. When you exercise regularly your body also releases endorphins, making you feel more energetic physically and over-all excited.

When I work with my clients on stress related issues, I use hypnosis to help them gain their inner equilibrium through deep mental relaxation. I teach them relaxation and self-hypnosis techniques. I also, help my clients come up with specific positive affirmations to help them deal with their unique challenging life situations and stressors.Suggestions for regular exercise, eating healthy and better sleep are also given to a client for the over-all well being and health.

If you would like me to help you with managing the stress in your life, please see below to schedule a session with me ASAP! I look forward to working with you.

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Overcome Harmful Habits with Hypnosis

beautiful girl enjoying the summer sunHypnosis is widely used to help people overcome bad habits.

Nail biting, hair pulling, skin picking, thumb sucking, smoking are all common bad harmful habits that can easily be overcome with hypnosis and replaced with new positive and healthy habits. Instead, you can be programmed to take care of your nails and skin, to exercise moderately and comfortably, and lead an over-all healthy life style.

Most bad habits are associated with some positive feeling of satisfaction or comfort. These associations are stored in your unconscious mind and were formed at some point in your life.  It doesn’t matter when and how they were formed, because for hypnosis all we need to do is program your mind with new specific affirmations about the negative aspects of your habit and the positive consequences of overcoming it. Sometimes, in the case with bad habits, all your mind “knows” is, how comfortable it makes you feel to bite your nails, pick your skin or pull your hair, while logically you know it is unpleasant, un-appleaing and overall useless. Through hypnosis you can rewire these associations and remove the old patterns. You will stop the bad habit and never come back to it.

When I work with clients to help them overcome bad habits with hypnosis, I use a hypnotic induction to deep mental and physical relaxation. When the client reaches a state of trance, I give them specific suggestions to help them break an old bad habit and substitute it with a new healthy behavior.

Any additional suggestions focus, positive thinking, motivation to exercise or eat healthy ( if necessary or requested) are given to a client for the overall well-being and success.

SCHEDULE A HYPNOSIS SESSION to overcome a harmful habit. NYC Hypnotist  Elena Beloff is available for private hypnotherapy sessions in her Midtown Manhattan office. CALL 646 450 8167 NOW or email info@insidehypnosis.com  New York Hypnotherapy is Your Solution.