I once worked with a woman who came to me to overcome the anxiety she associated with seeing her daughter-in-law. She experienced an over-all negative state, which hindered her from expressing herself and simply having a good time with family when they gathered for dinners. I asked what she wanted to feel instead. She said that she didn’t want to feel a sudden liking of this woman or any friendship yet. She simply wanted to feel at ease. She wanted to be comfortable enough to interact normally with her family without constantly experiencing an unpleasant anxiety when she looked at or tried to speak with her daughter-in-law.
I asked her to recall a memory from the past when she felt total bliss and happiness. She said it was with her kids when they were small and they were all lying in bed together. At that moment her life felt worth living.
I explained to her how creating a specific anchor and associating it with this positive memory could help her deal with her anxiety. She could use a trigger associated with this memory and use it every time she was near her daughter-in-law. Over time this would naturally replace her state of anxiousness. I also suggested some examples of different anchors she could use. She chose an olfactory anchor of lavender oil.
I hypnotized her into trance state and guided her back in time to her memory of when she was with her kids in bed, full of happiness and joy. She gently smelled lavender oil with her eyes closed, as I brought it near her nose. We did this a few times, so that the lavender oil anchor could be naturally and efficiently associated with the state of ease, comfort and peace.
A few days later she told me that she had dinner with her family and her daughter-in-law. She put a little bit of lavender oil on her wrist. Whenever she needed to experience the state of calm and ease, she simply smelled her wrist and felt very positive. She was able to interact and communicate and make choices from a very powerful and positive place of peace and love. This became a powerful post-hypnotic suggestion with a little aid of lavender oil anchor.