Confidence in a man is extremely attractive to any woman. It’s not so much about being Bratt Pitt or Ryan Gosling, it’s more about being Julius Caesar or General Patton. Power, leadership, confidence are the key ingredients to winning a woman’s heart. Thank the biology’s selfish gene for that, because its no secret: women are attracted to power, men are attracted to beauty.
In this part of my blog I will be documenting some of my most interesting hypnosis sessions. All names are changed and situations slightly modified to protect my client’s confidentiality.
Igor came to me with the stuttering problem. He had a minor speech impediment, where certain words are challenging to pronounce. After many years of struggle, he found a way to manage this problem by scanning for feared words to either shift the conversation or substitute difficult words with synonyms. All stutterers do this to some extent but some become so adroit at it that they appear to stop stuttering altogether. They are often labeled as “closet stutterers.” However, no one knows how much stress they have to endure: hunting, substituting, avoiding, maintaining a constant vigilance, overall feeling exhausted by the end of the day. Igor was a closet stutterer.
During the pre-talk, Igor shared with me that a few years ago he went to South America and met Drake, a dating coach, who performed a brief ten minute hypnosis induction with him to help him build confidence meeting women. Drake hypnotized Igor to imagine that he was a powerful man, owning a whole harem of beautiful women; they all desired him, seduced him and he was some sort of sexual animal, impossible to resist. When Igor came out of hypnosis he felt more confident and empowered. To his own surprise his stutter was also gone.
The sexual power and owning a harem of women represented male power for Igor, being some sort of a king, who was able to provide to all of his wives, inseminate them and breed more of his children, that is to spread his genes.
Igor told me that unfortunately the confident feeling lasted only for a few weeks after that brief session and consequently his stutter returned. However, he believed in the power of hypnosis and asked me to hypnotize him again so he could re-experience this exuberant confidence and lose the stutter permanently.
I didn’t want to do the same thing Drake did for Igor, by guiding him into imagining sex orgies in order to overcome his stutter. It wasn’t my style and I am not a dating coach, even though I saw a powerful value in this metaphor for Igor. At the same time, I didn’t want to offer something traditional, conservative and discount the work of Drake. So, I decided that this time, Drake and I “could work” in tandem for Igor: me in the therapy room and Drake in Igor’s imagination.
I used an induction and put Igor into the state of trance, then I guided him back to the experience he had with Drake in 2010. I instructed Igor to imagine Drake and hear his every suggestion one more time, so he could re-experience the same state of extreme confidence and male power, no mater where he was and what he was doing in his imagination.
After Igor achieved the powerful state again, I added a few more metaphors. I guided Igor to imagine and choose people whose confidence, power and vision he admired. Among them were Winston Churchill, Julius Caesar and Thomas Jefferson. Igor imagined himself being these men one at a time. When Igor achieved a magnified state of power mentally, physically and emotionally, I asked him to create a trigger: a deep breath in and out along with his personal code word which he would associate with this desired mental state. This technique is called Anchoring. Anchoring refers to the process of associating an internal state with some external or internal trigger so that the response may be quickly, and sometimes covertly, reassessed at will and at any time.
After Igor’s anchor was locked, I gave him some more suggestions, that from then on it would be easy for him to access this state of confidence and power with his personal anchor at any time and at any place.
Igor was delighted. This time he was convinced that his confidence state is like a software in the mind – always there, available to him permanently. His stutter was also gone. He spoke slowly, smoothly and was very relaxed. The internal state of confidence made him not care about what people thought or said about his minor speech impedement or a random stutter. It simply no longer mattered.
NYC hypnotist Elena Beloff for hypnosis sessions, call 646 450 8167, firstname.lastname@example.org